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Sands:
Let's get this party started.

So, hosts and age. Tulpas are being made by some very young people these days and I feel like this is an interesting enough topic to talk about, so why not? Tell us, what do you think about young hosts or old hosts or do you maybe think there's some minimum age of tupperforcing?


My opinions, let me tell about them. We do put our ages into numbers, but in the end, it doesn't mean too much. You can run into someone who is 30 and is an annoying, immature little brat, and then you can run into someone who is 12 and is a super smart kid you want to hang around, because they just have this aura of maturity their peers don't have. When it comes to tuppers, I don't think age means anything.

On one hand, young people are most likely going to be immature. They don't quite understand how much time and effort this takes, or what exactly their responsibilities will be. A tulpa will be with you you entire life, as far as we know. A young person might make a tulpa for a stupid reason and grow bored of them, which is a terrible fate for anyone. They might not understand that they and the world will change and as such, what they thought was a good idea might not be a good idea in the future. One should always think about the future of them and their tulpa, which many young people living in the now don't even consider. Their teenage years especially will be very difficult and full of change, which is when a lot of problems might arise for young hosts.

And at the same time, a young adult might do the same or have their own stupid reasons to have tulpas. As a person grows older and starts getting more and more independent, their life changes. The school gets harder and now they have to worry about money and getting a job, having less and less time to spend with their tulpa. Stress creeps in and maybe they decide they wish to concentrate on themselves instead of some imaginary being in their head.

But a young child with a tulpa might also be a wonderful sight. The tulpa would be a special friend, the person closest to the kid. The one you can tell secrets to without having to fear they will tell those to others. They can help a child in a way the child understands, because the tulpa itself would be very young as well and able to put themselves in the kid's shoes. As they grow, a tulpa could easily help them over many shitty situations assuming the host is a smart and responsible kid and their relationship healthy. Same goes for the older ones, a tulpa could easily help with all the stress if you can look at the situation in the right way. A host and tupper relationship is something special when done right. You just learn something about yourself as you make a tulpa and you get everything you pour in and more back.

It's not for everyone, though. TL;DR: Immature hosts won't get far, while mature ones definitely will. That's what my short answer to this is. It's not about the age, it's about one's maturity and ability to deal with problems and responsibilities. It's almost like getting a pet. Some kids do it wonderfully, others leave their pets to starve. Adults are the same.

soldier_of_faith:
Seeing what I have from the various (horrible) tulpa skype groups that have sprung up over the past few months and the various IRC's, maturity is a large part of it, but it does correlate to age. In more than one occasion, a great topic is brought up and discussed by the older members, only to have it derailed by the younger members. Most trouble and drama was also caused by younger members as well, yet again on multiple occasions as well.

With that being said, I just prefer older hosts due to the better possibility of them having a fitting maturity level.

Sands:

--- Quote from: soldier_of_faith on September 20, 2013, 05:21:39 PM ---Seeing what I have from the various (horrible) tulpa skype groups that have sprung up over the past few months and the various IRC's, maturity is a large part of it, but it does correlate to age. In more than one occasion, a great topic is brought up and discussed by the older members, only to have it derailed by the younger members. Most trouble and drama was also caused by younger members as well, yet again on multiple occasions as well.

With that being said, I just prefer older hosts due to the better possibility of them having a fitting maturity level.

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That definitely is a problem and well, of course, usually younger ones are more immature than the mature ones. Me, I wouldn't turn away mature young people though, but I wouldn't like the immature older folks. That's why I say there shouldn't really be any age limits to making tulpas, it should be about one's maturity level.

soldier_of_faith:

--- Quote from: Sands on September 20, 2013, 05:25:13 PM ---
--- Quote from: soldier_of_faith on September 20, 2013, 05:21:39 PM ---Seeing what I have from the various (horrible) tulpa skype groups that have sprung up over the past few months and the various IRC's, maturity is a large part of it, but it does correlate to age. In more than one occasion, a great topic is brought up and discussed by the older members, only to have it derailed by the younger members. Most trouble and drama was also caused by younger members as well, yet again on multiple occasions as well.

With that being said, I just prefer older hosts due to the better possibility of them having a fitting maturity level.

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That definitely is a problem and well, of course, usually younger ones are more immature than the mature ones. Me, I wouldn't turn away mature young people though, but I wouldn't like the immature older folks. That's why I say there shouldn't really be any age limits to making tulpas, it should be about one's maturity level.

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You can't really limit who can't and can make a tulpa anyway, but part of me wishes there was a Maturity level requirement. There have been some real horror stories of stabbing tulpas, blatant fetish insertion, and general idiotic autism, because some people didn't take the whole tulpa process serious. It's one thing to have fun and have your own "spin" on interacting with your tulpa, but another to think the whole thing is a game or a joke.

TulpaCouple:
It's definitely an interesting concept.

There are a few reasons why I might suggest some younger folk to wait a while before making a tulpa. One of the reasons is really just to do with how much life changes for someone younger like that--The expectations between junior high, high school, and then moving on to college--all of that can be a chaotic time where priorities are changed and honestly lots of kids are still figuring out who they are. I can see how for some kids, a tulpa could help them through this time--hell, from studying a bit into DID/Multiplicity, those younger times when things are crazy are when a lot of them started to develop what we might here label as an accidental tulpa. Simply because they needed that second opinion, or that person to be there for them when everything else was changing.

I know I have seen some posts made by younger users that have made me nearly rip out my hair in frustration, but as others have said here, same can be said for the older immature users. We've all seen plenty of twenty somethings or thirty somethings who are just as controlled by immature urges and thoughts as you would expect a much younger kid to be--well, since they just never grew out of it.

It can be tough to decide an age restriction on a site, however. Especially with a community like this where people may be in dire need of help or advice to get them through a tough time.  But there is definitely an amount of maturity that is gained from age and experience that many younger kids will lack, even if they are extremely mature-for their age.

Then again many immature kids will grow up and those tulpas who may or not be fully independent at this point in time may also develop their own independence in time as they grow together. But then there will be others who are uninterested in personal growth--I guess that's their own choice, though.

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