Well all are different. Back then it was nothing but strict guidelines, now it's avoiding those strict guidelines because they hurt some. But total freeform is going to hurt others. This community is far from having the perfect way to help others with their tupper problems, but perhaps with time it'll evolve again. Be something less extreme and meet somewhere in the middle when it comes to the methods, so all kinds of people will find the best method to guide them through the process.
It's simple to see why you have a lack of progress. Because you don't really do anything, you see everything as a chore and you probably are one of those master procrastinators. You can say "lazy", sure. You're in a bit of a tricky situation as far as your life goes, in a way it could be the perfect opportunity for you to get away from it all for a moment and spend all that time with a tupper, yet you're stressing constantly about it. So that leaves you pretty exhausted mentally if not also physically. Not the ideal time to force.
Okay it's Theory Tuesday. Minimal work might work for some and in some of these cases, this minimal work might require like, years. Many years. Working on it constantly and really focusing on greating a tupper is of course going to give you faster results.
I guess we can wonder how a tupper is created and that's where we start forcing theories down everyone's throats. I think I can say for certain that I got a voice in my head, of others I can't be sure. So I have created a voice that responds to me and I haven't had it before. So we went from no voice/another personality in my head to a scenario where there is one. Question is why, isn't it? Ton of work, but that also makes us ask how the hell that really works.
I don't know anything for certain, but the moment I read about this whole tupper thing, I just went "sure, why not", accepting that it might be possible. The power of our mind can be pretty amazing and that's why I sort of linked this to placebo. A person can be given fake medicine they think works and it can actually truly work, despite not having anything that should make them feel better, so their mind basically creates a real effect. In some cases, this fake medicine is even better than the real one, so that's pretty amazing.
I believe a tupper is basically created when you fool yourself to believe that there is someone in your head when there really isn't. Before you start, there isn't one in your head, of course. Assuming you don't have a history with sapient imaginary friends. It's just a process of fooling yourself into thinking it exists through a lot of work, forcing and narration and such. And as with placebo, I would think that the effect could be real and actually give you that voice in your head, even though it didn't exist before. Might be more difficult because you're aware of what you're doing and you're not fooled into it like with placebo medicine tests, but certainly possible. I think we're proof of that.
It's all about the mindset. Forcing is just fooling yourself into thinking you're talking to someone else when there is no one. You get a tupper once your mind is fooled enough. If you can't even say "hi" to this other person, I'd say you don't think there really is another person in your head, which leads into no progress and no tupper. The first step is to treat them like another person, one with their own wants and needs and dreams and whatever. A person you spend time with. I hope you enjoyed your Theory Tuesday.
As for the ponies, if you make me imagine "auburn skies", then I would think of a setting or a rising sun and the sky when it's full of beautiful reds and oranges. I think the orange/brown aka auburn hair would fit the name better and you do tend to pair your redheads with green eyes pretty often, but it's a rather boring hair color for a cartoon marshmallow pony. A bit too realistic and plain. So I would make it flashier and more vibrant.
But I guess muted, neutral and normal colors could fit a very down to earth character. A wallflower, no one special. Or at least one who doesn't think they're special.