Don't be so hard on MegaBusta. He's our local comic relief.
Is it truly possible for a personality to be entirely separate from the form/looks(be it a physical body or an imaginary one), voice, and other characteristics other people can perceive? It seems to me that a person may either try to mold their appearances to match their personality or mold their personality to match their appearances and it's rare for them to be in a complete mismatch. Even if that weren't possible, I would think an entirely formless person without a voice or body to identify with would have a harder time acquiring a personality than one which is embodied (even if we're talking about a virtual body like a tulpa's form).
I shall manually award myself the honour of finally making you post here.
Well, you're right about the whole representation-personality interconnection. How much people mold themselves into fitting with their form or personality differs, of course. What I meant was simply that despite how much one can assume or hope from a person's representative traits like form, voice, or whatever, one is still only assuming or hoping. The true personality is something one has to uncover through other means, like interaction with, or spectation of, the person in question. There are of course the cases where someone might look cute and they incidentally happen to be cute in most ways one imagined, but like I said, those would just be assumptions and/or hopes, and they'd just so happen to be correct.
Then, of course, there are also the various associations one may have about the representative traits of the person in question, here again being things like gender, form, or voice, for instance. Like Colonel pointed out, a female may for example be frequently
seen as someone leaning more towards a nurturing personality, while a male may be seen as leaning towards a masculine-like personality. How biased people are by these internal associations differs, but as far as I can tell, Enny is being rather biased by how the "pretty girl"
seems, despite not knowing a lot about her personality at all.
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Hence why I referred to the mindset as being many posts ago, in the past tense. I didn't mean to make any implication about whether to not you still carry this mindset.
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What I want to know, rather, is why you feel the need to "befriend" this "pretty girl" so badly. Why her? Is this like a friendship variant of "love at first sight"? There are so many other people in the world with whom you could have a much easier time getting to know the personality. As I point out in my response to Ruffle, you seem biased towards this girl based on many assumptious and/or hopeful things about her.
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You just gotta be more social. Of course, I'm not a big expert in the social department, as I, unlike you, don't feel the need to know certain people because of whatever representative traits they have. I see grills now and then that I think look cute, sound cute, seem cute, and just overall present themselves with a general sense of cuteness. That doesn't mean I want to get to know them, since they can be very different from what my mind assumes and hopes them to be, not to mention how different I'd be from them.
What you have to consider is that most friends are made based on common interests. So, for instance, if there's some place of her interest she attends regularly, like uhh, I dunno, a club, then you'd go to that club as well and immerse yourself in the interests she has, so you both have some common ground. You know, instead of you just thinking
"Oh, she looks and seems nice. I'll just go ahead and be friends with her." How you'd discover her interests is much more tricky. I wouldn't say a game store is the best place to make friends, and stalking her elsewhere would probably be a little creepy. Moreover, you may not even be her type.
This is why making friends (or a significant other) is not just a simple pick-what-you-want process. There are many factors involved.