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Tulpa Diaries / Re: Meromero Days
« on: August 24, 2016, 07:46:13 PM »
Hey, good to see you're still around.
Well I can kinda relate, been suffering from exactly the same problems lately, but at least I know what to do now.
Not that I didn't always know, I was just too lazy.
If effort doesn't lead you anywhere, maybe you need more effort? I mean real effort.
I thought I was doing so much for and together with my tupper, but in the end I realized I only did it for me, barely thinking about her. Yeah, there were those active forcing sessions every now and then but calling that effort would be pathetic. Not only did this routine yield no progress, it actually made her weaker because my attention was completely elsewhere.
Sand is right, you gotta WANT to force, being obsessed with your tupper is the best bet when it comes to progress. Even the tightest schedule is useless if everything feels like a chore. You gotta love what you do. Just like with gittin real gud at any other skill. The only advice I have, though I suck at following it myself quite often, is to involve your tupper into even the most mundane activities. Always. If you want her to get strong she needs to be the center of your life. In good and in bad times. It's like unconditional love. You don't force because you want to see some special progress, you just want to spend time with tupper. Without any expectations. Just for her.
I managed to keep that up the first half year and progress was stellar. That's where I want to get back to.
And I think the boot camp is actually a good idea. Try one or two weeks of daily updates here, it really helped me. Plus it will make the forum at least a little bit less dead.
Now start by filling out the image for us, we still don't know what Melo looks like!
Well I can kinda relate, been suffering from exactly the same problems lately, but at least I know what to do now.
Not that I didn't always know, I was just too lazy.
If effort doesn't lead you anywhere, maybe you need more effort? I mean real effort.
I thought I was doing so much for and together with my tupper, but in the end I realized I only did it for me, barely thinking about her. Yeah, there were those active forcing sessions every now and then but calling that effort would be pathetic. Not only did this routine yield no progress, it actually made her weaker because my attention was completely elsewhere.
Sand is right, you gotta WANT to force, being obsessed with your tupper is the best bet when it comes to progress. Even the tightest schedule is useless if everything feels like a chore. You gotta love what you do. Just like with gittin real gud at any other skill. The only advice I have, though I suck at following it myself quite often, is to involve your tupper into even the most mundane activities. Always. If you want her to get strong she needs to be the center of your life. In good and in bad times. It's like unconditional love. You don't force because you want to see some special progress, you just want to spend time with tupper. Without any expectations. Just for her.
I managed to keep that up the first half year and progress was stellar. That's where I want to get back to.
And I think the boot camp is actually a good idea. Try one or two weeks of daily updates here, it really helped me. Plus it will make the forum at least a little bit less dead.
Now start by filling out the image for us, we still don't know what Melo looks like!