Indeed, there's not really any right or wrong way to do this. People have made tulpas using many different methods. You won't know if something will help you before you try it. Not everything someone says will work will work and sometimes a thing everyone says is bad is actually the best method you have ever tried.
Making a tulpa is a very personal journey and there's really not much we really know about tulpas. The answer to "is it my tulpa" is "maybe", you need to feel it for yourself, but there is no need to say it is or isn't when you don't have enough to make up any kind of valid decision. The answer to "is it alright to do this or that" is "how does doing make you feel, do you think it works or is helpful".
If it feels like it's bad, stupid or not helpful - or even harmful in your eyes - don't do it. You tried it, it didn't feel fine, stop it. But if something feels like it's very helpful and even if others say it's a stupid thing, keep doing it if you want to. Making tulpas is all about getting the right mindset and finding your own way. The rest of us can only tell you what helped us or give out tips we have heard helping others. There's no guarantee they will work for you.
So, don't worry. Keep at it if it feels like it's working, listen to any possible responses you think you might be getting. It might be your tulpa or it might not. But keeping an ear out without deciding if it's a real response or not is a very healthy mindset early on. I wrote about it
here a bit more, maybe it is worth a read.
Oh, and you might want to think of giving this thread another title. One that actually describes your problem, so in case anyone else has the same problem as you, they will be able to easily find the thread and read the responses. Let's make the Q&A part of the forum easy to use for everyone, eh?
